New single ’How to not expect too much’ is out today, ahead of the Danish alternative artist’s debut EP ’It’s easy to be soft’, out on October 3rd via Virgin Records.
The emotionally raw and sonically expansive new single from sophie-lou captures the quiet collapse of self after loss — and the fragile hope of letting someone in again. Written in the aftermath of her mother’s death, ’How to not expect too much’ is a personal reckoning with grief, perfectionism, and the fear of failure — as a partner, a friend, a human being.
“I had lost my mother — the most important person in my life — and I had done everything to escape that grief. When I finally found a home, I fell in love for the first time while still completely broken. The song was born from that collision,” she explains.
The Copenhagen-based artist draws from a wide-ranging musical background. sophie-lou grew up surrounded by jazz and spent 14 years performing with the renowned Danish National Girls’ Choir (DR Pigekoret), while carving out her own sonic world through ambient and electronic music.
Her music lives in extremes — a sound that blends angelic choral textures with distorted guitars and maximalist pop arrangements, placing her voice at the emotional center.
’How to not expect too much’ follows sophie-lou’s buzzworthy debut ’I will love you till I die’, which broke through on national Danish radio P6 BEAT and caught the attention of international media.
Her upcoming EP ’It’s easy to be soft’ is a love letter to vulnerability — a musical safe space built from diary entries and fearless emotional honesty.
“The EP is about choosing softness in a world that tells you to harden. I’ve learned to take my vulnerability seriously — and that has opened up a much more compassionate space, both for myself and for others.”
Behind the artist moniker stands Sofie Emilie Maintz Thorsen. She produced ’It’s easy to be soft’ herself. It’s mixed by Nanna Schannong (Lowly), mastered by Alma Hede (De Må Være Belgiere), and released with distribution via Virgin Records.
